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A poignant message.

Russell I have started so many emails to you. None of them expressed how we felt thinking of you – how often we talked about you – how proud we are of how phenomenal you have been in dealing with this. When I saw you unconscious in Toulon a couple of days after the accident the whole thing felt completely unreal. You looked perfect like you were asleep but we were so so scared you wouldn’t wake up or would wake up a different Russell to the one who we know and love so well. We sat with dani telling her u would ski again listening to Stewart and alwyn tell hilarious stories about you tricking some poor nameless girls into drinking p*^#  out of wine bottles and willed you on to wake up and do it all again. Personally no one else so thoroughly appreciates my musical taste in abba and Bryan Adams and gives me so much pleasure to irritate beyond belief on successive holidays winter and summer. It is so fantastic to read your blog and know you are attacking this crap thing that’s happened in the same way you have attacked every challenge you take on. I saw you skiing on the blog today and I was so excited I was jumping up and down yelling for Gerry and the kids to see it. You bastard you are faster than me already – 15 years later and I will still only see your rear view disappearing in the distance. I can’t wait. 
Xxx k

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My weekend..

My ever loyal buddy, Dan White came and got me on Friday, straight off the FES bike, to Chiswick / Acton , where I saw the lovely Cherie for a bit of massage therapy. 

She reports weekly on my physical status, which I find truly helpful. 
Thus far, she says every week that my body is getting stronger, more muscular and more resilient. 
It’s a real fillip to get a weekly boost from a trained eye. 
After seeing my old mate Jerry for a coffee, Dani took me back, to see my stunning god daughter, Emily at our house. 
So nice to see her before she disappeared back to Sheffield Uni. Hope I can yet be a ‘positive influence ‘ in her life..
Watching TV cuddled up to Amber was a real treat after that ( at least for me )..she’s the most adorable little girl. 
Saturday was pretty laid back ( except for half an hour on the Arm Bike that almost killed me ), til about 6pm when my cycling mate Glenn came round, followed by my school friends Mike and Alyson Jenkins and their talented and lovely kids, Ollie and Beth. 
Such a pleasure to have them in our house. 
Then Dan and Saskia came to dinner – really good fun – til I ran totally out of gas at about 12. 
Sas attempted the Whipped Cream Challenge …. No, not the one you Boys will have seen in strip clubs, but the home version. She said not to post it, so I am. 
Judge for yourself .. 
Sunday we went to watch Lily train at hockey, then played board games, then had lunch at our lovely friends’ – Larry and Sarah. 
Two of their boys were there, Jamie and Charlie – great lads. 
Like the Jenkins brood before them I’m struck by the warmth that teenagers show me. There’s a kind of unspoken and rapt attention that they give me, a sort of not necessarily knowing what to say, but not having to say anything. Their eyes say all they need to. 
Great to see Roy, Dickon, Rob and Rebecca, Jo and Andrew , Richard ( all at hockey ) ,  Jonny, Christina and Pat and Martin too. 
Martin’s going to help me sort a car out before too long – adapted hand control obviously – that should give me a different level of independence. 
The thought of driving is a bit scary frankly, but like skiing I’m sure after 10 minutes or so  it’ll seem ok.
Hopefully, anyway. 
I drove a bit like a sensible  old lady before, so I guess I’ll resume my vehicular habits and not feel the need to show off…reckless on skis and almost fatally so  on a bicycle, yet pedestrian behind the wheel – explain that one. 
I’m getting used to being like I am now a lot more now. 
I don’t spend the whole time thinking about what it was like before any more. 
In company I’ve felt so much more like my proper self, it’s really good. 
I looked at pictures of the mess I was in 6 months ago and Christ, I’ve come a long way from the near skeleton I was then.
That’s progress. 

Last night.

Last night I was collected and taken out to dinner by the lovely Marta and John ( or the lovely John and Marta  – just to make it fair ). It was 8pm when we left Stoke Mandeville – about the time that these days I’m  ready to just lie down. 

We had a really great time ( or I did, anyway! ). 
The point is, that without people ‘pushing’ me, I can’t really do it by myself, and IF pushed/encouraged then I not only succeed but have a proper ‘life’ too. 
Once ‘seated’ we’re all the same, right? It’s ok that my seats got wheels , I can still have the same conversations and the fun I used to have? 
That’s how it seems anyway. 
So thanks so much both, for proving there is life after 9pm whilst here in hospital. 
Saw Mary yesterday too, who is always bloody good value, with her varied and smart conversation. 
Even now there’s rarely a dull moment in my life. 
Thanks to you lovely people out there. 

Inherited trait.

My little angel did need glasses. 

She’s a little short sighted, for which she can blame her parents genes PLUS her obsession with her ipad mini. 
Yep, holding ‘devices’ too close for long periods every day is very likely linked to childhood myopia ( short sightedness ). 
Any of you http://melissaleach.blogspot.co.uk/?m=1 readers who have any vision/ eye/ glasses related questions are very welcome to ask me stuff by the way. It’d be quite good for me really, as an intro to going back to work before too long…., 
Russ 

Half way thro the week.

3 visitors yesterday to successfully distract me : Amber, my regular Wednesday company, who brought endless fruit and her lovely attitude to life, then the fantastic Lisa ( friends since Uni, tho she looks young enough to be my daughter ) and my brilliant brother, Stu. 

We had some wine, and crisps from Lisa ( plus sandwiches and chocolate mousse’s ). Lisa works as one of the top editorial  team at The Sun, and always has the funniest stories from the newsroom there. 
My wheelchair skills are slowly improving. 
Under supervision, I went forewards off a kerb twice yesterday. 
I’ve gotta crack that kinda sh*+ before I leave here, or become a prisoner in my own home when I leave, afraid to go out. 
Today? Well, the unpleasant stuff soon, then gym, physio and more gym. 
Plus visitors-  Mary, then John, who has threatened to take me to the pub…
2 more days and I go home for the weekend
Can’t wait.