Yearly Archives: 2013

Vin Rouge

From Danibelle x:

Now that Russ is able to eat “normal” food, I arrived at the hospital with a bag of the local grocer’s finest fruit. This was clearly heavenly after 6 weeks on the “goo diet”.

Better still, the hospital catering tray then arrived incorporating a glass of red wine. Only in France! Anyway, Russ clearly hasn’t lost his discerning wine tastes as he had a sip of it and said it was crap! Luckily, help was on it’s way as a very old friend, Sian, arrived with a bottle of Châteauneuf-Du-Pape and a very nice Rose wine, both altogether more to Russ’s liking. So, a few sips of wine later, he was a very happy boy. Russ hadn’t seen Sian for 18 years so there was lots of reminiscing of old times and lots of catching up to be done. By the time lunchtime visiting hours came to an end, the poor guy was exhausted!

Later in the afternoon, Dan and Sas arrived with their gorgeous two boys and baby girl. The day before Dan had climbed the Dome de Miage in Chamonix (a 14 hour climb) which sounded like a gruelling slog (certainly his feet weren’t looking very pretty after the climb). That is one athletic endeavour that won’t be going on my “To Do” list….

So, evening visitors for Russ were me, Dan and Saskia. This is Dan’s 6th visit to see Russ in hospital here in Toulon. An almost “wifely” dedication, I would say (sorry, Dan, if that makes you sound a bit gay….:-s ).

Dxxxx

Mission Possible

Danibelle;

I literally was Tom Cruise in Mission Impossible  when I arrived at London City Airport this morning; I was armed with a coterie of  iPads, iPods, iPhones (all generations – as am too much of a techno moron to know what is now obsolete and what is still current so thought I’d just grab the lot), a kindle,  a “pay as you go ” mobile handset and a travel-DVD player. Basically, every communication/entertainment device known to mankind. All because “Monsieur” is keen to get his hands on his gadgetry (not intended to be a euphemism for anything rude by the way…..).

Bearing in mind the last time I saw Russ (6 days ago), he was face-down in an induced coma, it was truly brilliant to see him awake and sitting upright. He seems to have mastered the feat of very successfully communicating by “mouthing words” (with pen & paper back-up when needed) and so we chatted endlessly for 4 hours. He outwitted me a couple of times during the evening (yeah, I know, not hard….) so any earlier concerns regarding potential brain damage have completely subsided.

We had a chat with the very charming  (middle-age woman speak for “tasty” :-s ) Dr Bordes and he is still currently of the view that Russ should be OK to be repatriated by air ambulance either Wednesday or Thursday this coming week. He will go straight into intensive Care at London Bridge Hospital to continue treatment of his respiratory issues which still require him to remain on the ventilator. I was assured that these issues are improving albeit slowly. 

The only issue of immediate concern is Russ’s hair. He is currently sporting a “70’s porn-style” look. Not his finest look…..

Love Danielle xxxx 

Lilster’s Bday x

Am update July 26th 

Today is Lily’s  birthday.  Happy birthday lovely Lily!  Russell is looking forward to hearing your voice on the telephone this evening. We shall all shed a few tears.
To our great delight Russ was very awake, aware and was even cracking a few jokes this morning. 
The nurse was telling us that his priority was enabling  Russ to return home.  He explained that the change in pressure during take off and landing would adversely affect  Russell in his present condition. Russell responded in writing on his white pad…..’no probs, I will cycle home…….’.  We all laughed.  later he asked me what the NHS was like prewar……. I know that I am over 40 but….!   We were delighted as you can imagine. He managed to drink two cartons of orange juice and, when we left, was looking forward to his ….mashed…..lunch . A mashed lunch is a first for Russell.  The gastric tube is still in place but,  if he can cope with a mashed lunch, it will be removed soon. 
The two hours spent with him were a real boost for us. We are looking forward to 4.00 pm when we visit again today. Further update later so watch this space 

Message From Sarah Frankum from hers and Larry’s visit earlier in the week;

Larry and I arrived last Tuesday afternoon and were expecting Russ to still be sedated so we were delighted to find him wide awake. We hadn`t seen him for 4 weeks and were amazed at his progress as although the pneumonia had knocked him sideways the old Russ was definitely there. Over the next few days, although very tired at times, he continued to improve and communicated by mouthing and writing. He loved hearing about all the support from home and was staggered when we showed him the calender so he could see how many friends and family had been out to visit him as his short term memory seems to be very hazy. However this also appears to be improving as he was able to recall certain things over our visit – he remembered from the Wednesday to the Thursday that a royal baby had been born and even enlightened us on the choice of name. He has definitely not lost his sense of humour – for example – I am reading a text to him from my phone at which point he asks Larry for some paper, looks at me and writes “Get some f**king glasses” as I am clearly struggling to read the small print!! We left after seeing Russ Thursday afternoon with more positive news of a hopeful repatriation next week which Wonder Wife Dani is busy sorting – in fact another comment Russ wrote down to Larry was, “I wish you were as lucky as me with my wife”. No offense taken Mr Dawkins!!!!

Mummy Dawkins PM (prime minister…)

Part 2
We returned to the hospital après lunch to find Russell under going thoracic vibration ,we were banned for an hour. At 5.15 we were readmitted to find Russell looking very OK thank goodness. He complained that he was feeling hungry and wanted to ‘ order lunch ‘ which we did for him. Lunch provided was very appetizing  ‘ soup ‘ ,’ mashed potatoes and diced ham’ , ‘trifle’ ,  ‘ semolina ‘ and a drink. Wow , a bit of a change from a nasal drip feed ! But where was the wine that we had ordered? He can have some on Monday apparently !!
 
He managed to drink all the soup plus large amounts of mashed potato and ham plus some trifle. Well done Russ, really excellent.
He talked to us for the whole time . 
At 5.40 pm lily rang Russ to tell him about her birthday and her drama performance . Amber followed with her account of the day. His face was a picture of happiness, it was tearful for us to watch.
However, he was very tired by 7.30 and wanted to sleep and so we left a little before 8.00 feeling happier than we had for a very long time. Well done Russ.
It has been an eventful and emotional week for us and for Russ too.
Roy was there when we arrived on Tuesday. He was a great support to both Russ and to us. Sarah and Larry arrived on Tues and were invaluable, today was our only full day with Russ on our own. 
Russ has leapt forwards from Tuesday to today. We can leave tomorrow feeling much happier than when we arrived last Tuesday
Dani will be very happy with the progress that he has made since she saw him last Sunday
 
Am signing off as blog writer Melissa. Lol Di xxxxxxxxxxxxx

White Cliffs of Dover

From Mummy Dawkins

Huge improvement this am . Russ, although very quiet, is totally with it. We have arranged for Russ to speak to Lily on her birthday tomorrow. Although he cannot speak because of the tracheotomy, he can listen to her voice which, I quote, ‘will be lovely’. We bought him an ice cream which he enjoyed although we had to finish it for him. He knows that Dani is returning on sat but it is almost impossible for him to appreciate time. All we can do is constantly reassure him that today is Thursday, tomorrow is Friday, Lily’s birthday and the next day he will see his darling wife, Dani.
Poor Russ, he is living in a void where night and day have merged and where, every so often, loving family and friends appear from nowhere to support him.
We have just heard from Dani that as long as Russell’s lungs continue to improve he will be able to return to the UK towards the end of next week which is wonderful news.
 Bob and I have just enjoyed a lunch with Sarah and Larry sitting outside under a leafy French tree. Just what the doctor ordered,I think. More news later .

PM

Russ was very sleepy this pm…almost too tired to speak or to write on his white board. Quite obviously, he is affected by his pneumonia . He has had a blood transfusion which should help him. He is looking forward to hearing birthday Lily,s voice on the phone tomorrow.
 We were asked to leave him an hour earlier so that he could be sedated to help him sleep well tonight.
Lol. Dianne
(The iPad up and coming genius and her advisor in everything but iPads – young Robert who thinks that an iPad is something worn by a pirate xxxxx)

Wednesday 24th – Bob and Di

This morning we found Russ very much calmer than yesterday. We explained that he was experiencing some drug withdrawal symptoms which he understood and accepted. Russell was wearing a pad around his chest which vibrates for a short period of time six times a day. The vibrations move the mucus around in his lungs which frees it allowing it to be sucked out. This is not a very pleasant procedure for Russell but is preferable to physiotherapy which he finds very painful. Further update this pm





 



Bob and I shared the afternoon and evening visiting time with Sarah and Larry. Russell was quite subdued. We massaged his shoulders and neck which seemed to make him more comfortable. Russ had a further session with the thoracic vibrator to bring up the mucus so that he could breathe more easily. This exhausted him but he rallied around before we left him. The nurses have told us that his pneumonia is responding to the course of antibiotics which is excellent news. We are hoping that he will feel much better tomorrow. 





Message from Jayne Creamer:




Hi Russ,
From reading the blog it sounds like you are showing some
true 'Russ form' in being annoyed and annoying - such a relief for us to
read ;) I can't believe that there is no mention of the biggest news -
no not the Lions caning the Wallabies - but the birth of the Little
Prince! who isn't a ginger - so you lost that bet - thanks, Ad and I
look forward to the beers you now owe us. Current debate is the name -
we have $2.50 on 'Kanye'.
As has been mentioned, Froome did win the
tour and in emphatic style - supported by an awesome team including the
fabulous Aussie package of Richie Porte. Felt sorry for poor Mark
Cavendish who seemed to be served a rough deal due to the fact that he's
only managed to win 15 stages this season not the 18 he did last
season.... what a slacker. 
There's some big cricket comp going on
too - the Ashes - I believe it's named. Can' tell you much about it as
they don't talk about it over here. 
Lots of love big boy, Ads and Jayne xxxx

Drugs….

Message from Roy Merrit:
I went to St. Anne’s Hospital this morning and was greeted by a nurse who told me that Russ would be sedated all of today and tomorrow so had a quiet morning.
After a peaceful lunch in Toulon old town I returned to the hospital and met Diana, Russ’s mum, and together we met his doctor to discuss his status and how his repatriation might work. Russ’s dad Bob then joined us and we went to his ward to be amazed on finding Russ completely awake and quite lucid.  He was able to communicate through speech for the most part though frustrated that this wasn’t easy, and if necessary was able to write down his questions/commands. We discussed his accident and I showed him some pictures but he has no recollection of the day itself but he does remember people and events from before then. He is evidently ‘with it’ though this brings it’s own challenges as he is finding the bed very uncomfortable and is dissatisfied with what he can do to get the nursing staff to address his various concerns. So this was really encouraging as the real Russ is clearly back, but an intro to the coming period as he tries to adjust to his new environment and situation. 
Larry and Sarah were also there so along with Bob and Diana Russ will not be short of support in the coming days.  The main problem that the doctors explained was that he has pneumonia in his lungs and this must be overcome before any substantial physical progress can be made. But he is now on an anti-biotic course for this and hopefully the next few days will show an improvement in this area. 
Drugs
Thanks to Roy for the above. 
Russ has been on very strong pain killers since the outset; it is highly likely amongst this cocktail of drugs Morphine has been given too.  Morphine is a derivative of Heroin/Opium and the patient will usually experience some ‘come down’ when he is weened off the pain killer.  Some of the symptoms might be itchiness,  restlessness, irritability, loss of appetite, body aches, severe abdominal pain, nausea and vomiting, tremors.  I imagine that the French nurses will not be able to convey to Russ that if he is experiencing these feelings that it is part and parcel of the withdrawal.  In addition it is quite common for patients coming out of sedation to experience frequent nightmares.  Russ may have had some nightmares and I suspect this might have explained his fascination with the cabinet at the end of his bed as he came round from his long induced coma a couple of weeks ago.  It may be a good idea for visitors to help Russ to understand that he might be experiencing these symptoms because of the drugs and to explain that they are all quite common and  that he will get through this stage once he is ‘weened off the drugs’. xxxx

July 22nd – lots of visitors!

From Chris and Carloine Bennfors

Following his sedation over the last three days for the chest infection, Russ had  what I can best describe as a frustrating day waking up. 

He is looking swollen from having spent time lying on his face, and has a couple of sores (from pressure points) on each cheek bone, which looks like he has done a few rounds with Mike Tyson.

He has also been quite agitated, which the nurses explained can be a side-effect of the medication. At one stage he made it clear he wasn't happy with his lot, indicating with his hand as a pistol he wanted to do away with the nurses! It would have been quite funny if it wasn't for the fact that Russ followed it up by indicating he wants to go home. I say 'indicate' as, due to the tracheotomy, he is still not able to use his voice properly, so has to mouth what he wants, which isn't always clear. What was clear was his request for Lily and Amber when he woke from his sedation, and the desire to speak to Dani, which we arranged as a 3-way conversation: Dani speaking, Russ mouthing and me interpreting for Dani. We're sad to be leaving you, Russ, but can see you are in good hands, with the medics and all the friends and family visiting. Keep up the fight and see you at home in London soon. Much love from us both C&C


From Rubena Kerr and family


Hi Melissa 

We saw Russ yest and we were so glad to have had the opportunity. Could you please update the blog with this message.

Me
, my daughter Sarah, Judy and her son Kieran set off on a weeks med
cruise from Barcelona on Sunday. By sheer chance our first port of call
was Toulon!!! We were so pleased to be able to go to the hospital to
visit Russ. We had been informed by Dani that he was sedated and had
been lying face down due to his chest infection, but was due to come
round in the afternoon.
When we arrived at the hospital
a nurse allowed us in a little earlier as he was awake and we had
around 90 mins to be back on the ship( or else we would have been hitch
hiking to meet the ship at Nice today!!!)
As expected,
he was still a bit woozy however he did know we were there, as he did
write my name on his little whiteboard . That would have totally
confused him to see us there!!!!
His face was swollen
and sore looking as Dani had explained to us. And yes we will agree that
he is def not his usual handsome self!!! However they will heal quickly
hopefully!
He was mouthing to us and we realised he was
thirsty. We had bought water for him and gave him a tiny sip. A
horrified nurse came in and gave us a telling off and gave us a swab to
pour it on so we gave him a tiny bit more!
Although he
was obviously uncomfortable his fighting spirit shone through as he was
still able to boss the nurses about and communicate what he wanted!
He was pointing to his abdomen and indicating pain so the nurses told us that he needed to have some Physio.
At that point we left feeling very grateful to have been able to see Russ, hold his hand, and just to have been there for him.
On our way out, we met Caroline and Chris who hadn't been able to see him awake.
Subsequently we have heard from Dani who has told us that he has been sedated for a  further 2 days!!!!

( we are hoping that wasn't due to the after effects of our visit!!!!!! )

We have all been devastated by Russ's  accident. We have been reading the
blog daily and it's been amazing to keep up with his daily progress.
Thanks so much for setting this up. We are so pleased to have the
opportunity to add to it.

Russ is an amazing person with an amazing family and so many suppotive friends thatthink the world of him!

With everyone's support and his own fighting spirit we are sure he will come through this horrific ordeal.

We are hoping to visit next month again with his Glasgow friends, inc
Dave, Alan M,&co! Everybody is sending all their love and best
wishes!!!

Lots of love

Beana, Sarah, Judy and Kieran


P.S Dave, Shirleyanne, Sue and all Scottish buddies who know Russ send their love and best wishes.
Xxxx

The Lions – Roy

Toulon – got here at 10pm so a quick post for you… Roy 

Late arrival in Toulon tonight but managed to blag my way in to see Russ briefly. He was sleeping peacefully, and I was very pleased to see that he looks a lot better than my last visit – healthy skin colour and fewer tubes etc. The nurse told me that he was awake until 7pm but was then exhausted and fell asleep.

I’ll be back tomorrow to hopefully see Russ when he’s awake. Thanks to John’s efforts I have some Lions videos to treat him to!  If that doesn’t get him shouting then nothing will.

From Bob and Dianne Dawkins xxx

Dear All,
Bob and I are flying down to Marseilles on Tuesday, the earliest flight available to us, so that we can be with Russell until the weekend when Dani will return from the UK. We feel that it is very important that a member of his immediate family is with him whilst he remains in ICU.
 
Russell’s  terrible injuries followed by a cardiac arrest during surgery left us shocked  and desperate. In the beginning, we didn’t know whether he would make it. . Russell has survived and  his survival is due to the highest standard of nursing care from a totally dedicated staff. We cannot thank them enough..  In addition, Russell,s  family are overwhelmed  by the number of friends who have  taken the time to visit him. Their love and concern has filled us with gratitude.  As his mother and father we want to thank each and everyone of you from the bottom of our hearts. Your love for Russell  has meant everything to Russ and to us .
 
We cannot wait to be with Russell again.
 
Thank you to everyone who has been there for  him.   
 

Dianne and Bob 

Sunday 21st July ….a little extra from Dani.

Sleepy times….

A difficult few days as Russ is in his 3rd day of an induced coma (designed to assist his lung recovery and improve his respiratory functions). Really not nice to see him in a coma, face down – and then when he is “turned” back on his back, huge facial swelling and welts from being prone face-down for 12 hours or so. All the more difficult given how lively he was last Thursday.

However, what I’ve learned throughout this whole tortuous process is that whenever there is a step or two forward, it is generally followed by a step back. And, indeed, we were told to expect this from the doctors right from the start. Still harrowing nevertheless.

Anyway, am now back in lovely W4 and it is truly lovely to be home and to be reunited with Lily who’s just returned from her sailing holiday in Italy. The girls are doing a drama course this week (obviously in a quest for Hollywood stardom some day….!) and it’s also Lily’s birthday Friday so should be some chilled nice Chiswick days ahead. Then back to Toulon at the weekend to hopefully see some Bionic-Russ improvements 🙂

Russ’s lovely parents and lots of fab friends will be there while I’m away so am relying on them for regular blog updates.

On a more cheery note, below are pictures of our classy dinner on the French Riviera last night (at my dad’s hotel in Bandol, just outside Toulon). Great dinner with dad, Wendy, Lisa and Andrew and Amber and I. As you can see, Amber was introduced to her first few sips of champagne. I know, very bad mother…..:-s

Love Dani xxxx

P.S Re. Russ’s face-down comatose state, have just realised that about 67% of those reading the blog will have actually witnessed Russ in this state on numerous occasions before (as have I over the 29 years we’ve been together). Pretty normal way for the party boy to end an evening…..:-s