For richer, for poorer.
For better, for worse.
In sickness and in health.
I think these phrases ought to be properly explained to prospective married couples, with examples cited, and talked through, pre church.
‘ If she gets MS, and gradually loses everything, if he loses his mind, if he loses his legs, gets half his face blown off, if she became a paraplegic… then what then? Would you still stick by them?
Far from everyone can cope with these things – the care required, the resources required, the change in their social lives, the unconditional love thats necessary, the adjustments to be made to their homes – all stressful stuff, but all hinted at in the marriage vows.
Rarely do people get married knowing that their health might suddenly deteriorate, prematurely, and I wonder how often people even consider the inevitable slide into lesser health that accompanies age/senility.
How a partner copes with their partner’s ‘ health downfall ‘ is a true test of whether that partner meant what she/he said/repeated that day at the alter.
I now look at couples and analyse them to a degree, or at least think about what might result from that eventuality. My conclusions ( which are all guesswork of course ) are that quite a few people probably didn’t think too hard about what they said at the alter, the wedding being a lot more about the dress and the party than the real reason for betrothal.
My Husband has advanced prostate cancer and has had a stroke. He cannot do much for himself. When I married him in 1971 I made the vows that included in “Sickness and in Health do death us do part” and I intend to do exactly that. It is not easy. Our lives have changed but that is what I promised to do. Love to you Margaret x
Your experience of marriage is an example to others.
My own marriage has not endured in the same way…
If you truly love someone then you will do whatever it takes Margaret x
Hhhhm. Maybe love makes it easier and duty makes it harder to care for someone.
Precisely xx