Thanks so much to Berj for driving me back to Stoke Mandeville tonight.
Monthly Archives: January 2014
From another top Welshman !
Lovely man. Your blog last night absolutely hit the nail on the head.
For all of us, the path to greater daily serenity, peace of mind and just feeling that we have done our best before we put our head down on the pillow is to try and help and support other people. Especially when they ask for help.
I have written to you before over the last few months about how words that I sneered at frankly have become more important in meaning to me. For example I thought that people who ‘trudged’ along, doing their best were weak, had no goal, were not people that I could get any positive energy from. I have done a complete 360 on this. Sometimes all we can do in a day, because of how we are feeling, is just put move forward as best we can. Otherwise we work ourselves up, inevitable compare and despair with past days, times or situations.
Love is a word that is also seen as having a direct, perhaps sexual meaning versus it’s true meaning of frankly just being helpful and supportive. Your story about Nev’s son is lovely.
The alternative to love, is to point fingers. In my experience if you point 1 finger you get 3 fingers worth of stuff back that is at best very unpleasant for how I feel and damaging to my well-being.
Keep loving yourself and others. It is a the basis of being a strong human being not a weak one.
Phil
From a top fellow Welshman.
Hi Russ,
As I sit on the train heading to the wonderful Birmingham, I realised phone calls are out of the question today. Yep, left the phone at home! Anyway, just thought I’d touch base and try and schedule an evening to come and see you next month.
Before we get to that, I thought I’d share the joy I had in reading the blog episode throughout the Christmas period. What started to look like the vacation you wish you’d never gone on to the adrenaline filled experience you probably thought would never come, was a true inspiration! For the time I have known you Russ, you have given me more inspiration than anyone to keep focussed on the things and people you love in life. Pushing myself to a Triathlon and running 10k were just a couple of things I stepped out of my comfort zone. From your side of it, I quietly laughed when you went on a surf trip to Bali (I know experienced surfers of 20 years that would have bottled out of hitting the ferocious waves of the Indian Ocean), but for Russ it was a challenge to live up to. For all those challenges, the last 6 months have been the biggest challenge and you continue to show that positive ‘I can’ attitude, venturing to the ski slopes. I have no doubt as time moves on you will find more and more happiness and enjoyment, it will just be different. You are and always will be an inspiration to your wife, children, family and friends. I must say, as much as I believed you would sometime defy the odds and prove that the mind is the key to your dreams, I truly didn’t think you’d be flying down the slopes within 6 months of such an horrific accident. More importantly, as a true Welshman says ‘you loved it see!’ and even more importantly, it was around the people you love most. Most importantly, you got that buzz in life you thought you would never get again. I can say one thing to that, I believe it is a taste of many happy times you will have ahead. The challenge is dealing with the power of the mind, everyone can talk positive to you and that is important, however nobody but you can feel the true emotion and frustrations. Try and think of the improvements you are seeing day by day, week by week. I have no doubt you have set ‘Russ goals’. I hope you do not experience too many barriers like Guttman leisure centre, there are plenty of words we could blurt out for this – I would probably end up in a cell – T….s! Go for it Russ!
Something did happen on 2nd January that I believe could be of value. I went to a conference and had the pleasure of meeting an inspirational speaker ‘Marcus Childs’. He talked to an audience of 70 people and relayed various stories, however one was about someone who had a similar experience to yours. I went and had a private chat with Marcus before he left and he explained the emotional side of what you have experienced is the hardest to deal with. They have a voluntary organisation which he has suggested is worth a visit and I have detailed below his contact details (he has welcomed you to make contact with him). If your emotions are all over the place, it could be worth giving him a call or checking the website. By all means explain you were given his details by myself at the Eyesite conference on 2nd January.
Website: inmindinbody.com
Marcus Childs
E-mail: Marcus@inmindinbody.com
Mobile: 07956 907 983
Look forward to hearing from you
Kindest regards,
Andrew
Last night.
Was taken out (by two lads that work for me, Scott and Nev, and my an ex student of mine called Irinder) last night.
More sense!
Sorry to hear of your experience in the pool yesterday but not in the least surprised. Health and Safety ,in so many instances, has done away with ordinary good old common sense. Regrettably , so many of those responsible for drawing up H and S rules were and are totally lacking in common sense. Some years ago a good friend who you know (but whose name I will not put into print), rang me and asked me if I would do a day’s kayak instruction on the local reservoir. When I arrived to do the instruction with a crowd of primary school kids, he asked me to “keep it quiet” because I was no longer qualified . My very stringent B.C.U.Instructors Certificate was out of date and had been replaced by an NVQ. My 30 years of taking children on rivers and seas without a single incident were of no avail. It turned out that none of his present crop of instructors could perform an Eskimo roll and one of them could only just manage to swim 25 yards. My mate told me that it worried him to death and today he would be able to sit back and relax for once. There are so many examples of total idiocy regarding H and S that my way around it is to try hard to completely ignore it or, if I am in a situation where I have no choice but to take notice, be as bloody awkward as I can and take the piss out of anyone available.
Maybe we can arrange it for me to come up and come to the pool with you and bollocks to the lifeguard and his pathetic rules.
Love, Dad
Sent from my iPad
Sense.
Today.
Today’s been a strange one.
Monday and Tuesday.
So many lovely visitors in just 2 days.
I’ve just read this .
I find occasional emails that were sent to me back when I was still pretty confused….
On 1 Aug 2013, one of my staff wrote:
Welcome back to the UK boss. Hope you feel better for being home-ish.
Iv been very impatient with waiting for updates on the blog, click on it a million times a day. I know you will love all the superhuman comments, wish u all the strength in the world to make something good of this shit situation, miss you and your humour on a daily basis. If you need anything, let me know.
xx
Weekend.
Great weekend again, with nothing negative happening.